Do you think these are good traditions of our culture? If so why?
Or the bear hug given by westerns when they are excited. We Bengalis express "Love" with our speech most of the time not by touching or hugging strangers. Specifically our traditional fathers were not so keen to show their love to us.
One elder told me about his dad. He said was not only my "Bap", he was more like "Bapre bap". Fear would overcome any love him may felt towards his father. The same person made enormous sacrifice in his career to take care of his father when he became old. Which you are unlikely to witness in the west.
I think all traditions have some good in them. Also important to understand the intentions behind showing love.
I am comfortable in the middle path. There are "Traditions" of the west and east I like. I practice those which suits my taste and reject the ones I don't think is compatible with my personality and ideals.
Shalom!
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Wednesday, August 29, 2012
Fwd: [mukto-mona] Is exhibition of love and affection still a taboo in our cultural tradition?
I think it is a basic difference between eastern and western cultures. Not only in Bengal if you proceed further east, you may see more of the same phenomenon.
>>>>>> Traditions are just that-----tradition. It is good for people who agree with it and practice it. It may look less than good for people who are not exposed to it. Men in the middle east kiss when they meet. I don't get it because I am not from the ME. I am sure people from the west would be uneasy with such gesture. Similarly giving a kiss on the cheek is common in the west when we meet a lady for the first time. I don't think average Bengali would ever get used to it.
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I wonder if exhibitions of love and affection are still taboos in our cultural tradition in Bengal.
You might ask why I am suddenly raising this question. I am doing so because I used to ask this question to me when I was a child, and, now that I am outside of my motherland for a while, still that question is haunting me again.
It is hard to get rid this customary habit, even after living, for a long time, in an open and liberal society. I don't know about you, but - that's been my experience.
As I remember – our parents used to hold off their emotional outburst of love and affection towards themselves as well as towards their children, let alone allowing love and affection between young boys and girls. I don't think that has change substantially by now. Do you think these are good traditions of our culture? If so why?
Jiten Roy
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