2. Proportionately more Hindus have more multiple wives than Muslims have. I will not challenge you as it is possible in a country where feudalism is still very powerful. Obviously Hindus are breaking laws. That is what you expect in a country full of corruption. But what is important to note is that Hindu India is clearly defying many noble characters in their holy books who had multiple wives. King Dasarath, father of Ramchandra and Laxman, had four wives. This is called dynamism.
>>>>>>>>> I am not blaming anyone here. just sharing reality of India. As far as law is concern, it is not proper for me to talk too much about how Indian Hindus should craft their family laws. If majority of Hindu men or women feel they should be allowed more wives, they can change that law. India is a democracy and if most citizens feels strongly about this, they can alter it.
3. I simply endorsed your opinion that religion should be kept aside. Now you are saying, "not really"!
>>>>>>> Simple misunderstanding. I did not say religion should be kept aside but I said for that post I was putting religious view on the side ( Leaving my religious prism on the side for that discussion). While I am comfortable with religion, I do not see EVERYTHING with a religious point of view. I felt as a non-Hindu, I should be courteous on a hard core religious issues (Leave it for Hindus to decide).
>>>>>>>> You claim to be an atheist but sadly see EVERYTHING via religious glass.
India or Bangladesh are not "Abiding by Islamic junction" but showing respect for religions. Bangladesh have government holidays on Durga puja, Janmostomi, Christmas etc. It does not mean our government endorse these religion. But accommodating minority populations to practice their faiths. India does the same with Muslims (With Family laws).
I think being respectful to different faiths is a good practice. Such laws shows that state belongs to everyone.
Shalom!
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From: Subimal Chakrabarty <subimal@yahoo.com>
To: mukto-mona <mukto-mona@yahoogroups.com>
Sent: Sun, Feb 9, 2014 8:04 pm
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Yes, Mr. QR, religion has to be kept aside.
>>>>>>>>> Not necessarily. Since I am not Hindu, I did not want to say too much about the religion but wanted to share my personal observation. A simple token of respect to followers of Hindu religion. I think ultimately it is Hindus they have to decide what needs to be changed.
It is not "Proper" to impose secularism or any other theories on Hindu population. We may discuss it but ultimately it is a Hindu community issue.
I don't know if polygamy is forbidden in Muslim Law in Bangladesh.
>>>>>>> It is not forbidden in your "Perfect India", why should it be forbidden in BD?
Also there are many tough PER-CONDITIONS if any man wishes to have more than one wife. Most people do not know about them.
sh. It will face opposition from our leaders like Allama Shafi who will refer to the edicts in Islam that allows a man to have up to four wives under certain strict condition
>>>>>>>>>> There are areas and views where I defer from Allama Shafi but as a citizen of this country he can form an opinion like any of you can. As long he is peaceful, he is entitled to have an opinion.
. As far as I know Muslim Law in Bangladesh does not allow equal rights for women to the parental property. It was a big issue India.
>>>>>>>>>>> However in some areas women have some advantages as well. So you are halfway right about it. IF someone does not like current law, they can propose a better one. Unless they have a better solution, it is useless to talk about current law.
Shalom!
From: Subimal Chakrabarty <subimal@yahoo.com>
To: mukto-mona <mukto-mona@yahoogroups.com>
Sent: Sat, Feb 8, 2014 2:07 pm
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As I said before many Hindu leaders have "One track mind" and it ends up into domestic politics. Right to property, right to security, right to inheritance (For women), right to divorce are need of the hour. I remember when our government wanted to have laws to protect right for Hindu women, many Hindus leaders spoke out against it.
This kind of self-centered attitude erodes credibility.
Property rights issue for Hindu women in Bangladesh is complicated. There is no easy solution. Hindu women will not be liberated with this right. It could bring more trouble into their lives.
Shalom!
From: Sukhamaya Bain <subain1@yahoo.com>
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Sent: Fri, Feb 7, 2014 5:09 pm
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When I took my wife back to my village home for the first time, she did not want to put Shari on her head (Ghumta). I did not want that as well. The moment she entered into the village, everybody got stunned to see a newly married woman, without Ghumta. They started to criticize her for that. My mother initially did not like it, but ultimately she got used to it. My wife regularly does not wear conch bangle or vermillion; she does it whenever she likes to.
I had a very young widow (~27 years old) in my family. I told her to get married soon, and she did. Some of my family members could not accept my suggestion, but finally they came along.
Jiten Roy
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Re: [mukto-mona] Do Hindus respect their women? Any Mukto monas beating their wives and having multiple mistresses?
1. From your statement it appears that Indian law is discriminatory. It allows only Muslims to have multiple wives.
>>>>>>>>>>> Actually Muslims are exempt on religious ground. Albeit very few Muslim men practice polygamy (Less than 2%).
4. I know what you mean. India allows Muslims to have multiple wives. That's what Bangladesh does too. And both the countries are simply abiding by the Islamic junctions.
1. From your statement it appears that Indian law is discriminatory. It allows only Muslims to have multiple wives.
2. Proportionately more Hindus have more multiple wives than Muslims have. I will not challenge you as it is possible in a country where feudalism is still very powerful. Obviously Hindus are breaking laws. That is what you expect in a country full of corruption. But what is important to note is that Hindu India is clearly defying many noble characters in their holy books who had multiple wives. King Dasarath, father of Ramchandra and Laxman, had four wives. This is called dynamism.
3. I simply endorsed your opinion that religion should be kept aside. Now you are saying, "not really"!
4. I know what you mean. India allows Muslims to have multiple wives. That's what Bangladesh does too. And both the countries are simply abiding by the Islamic junctions.
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I don't think Indian law permits polygamy.
>>>>>>>>>>> Muslims are allowed in India but non-Muslims are not. However according to a report (Few year old) still percentage of Hindu men with multiple wives is higher than percentage of Muslim men (In India) with multiple wives. Indian authorities generally looks the other way when this is discussed. Laws stays in the book and men have more than one legal wives.
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For most of the educated Hindus and even for Hindus in general, religion is kept aside when it comes to religious persecution of Hindu women. Many rituals are still there but they have been made very mild in most of the families. Nobody cares any more about what the sacred books like Mahabharata, Ramayana, Manusanhita, Purans, and subsequent edicts by Hindu orthodox pundits say how the Hindu women should behave from social and religious points of view. They however are used as sources of good moral values. Indian law absolutely ignores religious injunctions if they are inhuman. I don't think Indian law permits polygamy. I hope Bangladesh will follow India soon in guaranteeing legitimate rights to Hindu women.
Yes, Mr. QR, religion has to be kept aside. But will our religious fundamentalists let us do that in all cases? I don't know if polygamy is forbidden in Muslim Law in Bangladesh. It will face opposition from our leaders like Allama Shafi who will refer to the edicts in Islam that allows a man to have up to four wives under certain strict conditions. As far as I know Muslim Law in Bangladesh does not allow equal rights for women to the parental property. It was a big issue India.
If we keep religion aside, Hindu women will benefit with some rights to her parents property. I agree with members that, there are many Hindu families who do not have such issues. However many do have these issues.
>>>>>> Help me understand this part member Roy. How will this bring Hindu women more trouble.
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I agree with Dr. Jiten Roy that the lady generalized too much based upon the misery of her personal life, that she could have taken more serious actions against the criminal husband, and that she failed miserably to educate her family.
I also feel that polygamy and extra-marital relationships are not as prevalent among Hindu men as she has portrayed. I personally do not know even one man in our generation or the next generations who has more than one wife. Yes, a few in my parents' and grandparents' generations had two wives. I turned 18 in 1974, and most of my parents' generation died almost 15 to 20 years back.
However, what is this talk of property rights issue being complicated? Does that mean the Hindus of Bangladesh should keep the status quo? "It could bring more trouble into their lives" sounds similar to "the deprived should not ask for their rights because that could bring more trouble for them from the oppressor."
Sukhamaya Bain
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From: Jiten Roy <jnrsr53@yahoo.com>
She has painted her own experiences as the plight of all Hindu women in Bangladesh. Property rights issue for Hindu women in Bangladesh is complicated. There is no easy solution. Hindu women will not be liberated with this right. It could bring more trouble into their lives.
Educated people should take the lead to refine society from all superstitions; she had the responsibility to change the mentality of her own relatives. She failed miserably. Now she is blaming the whole society for her plight. She actually could have left her husband long back. This is what a self-reliant woman should have done.
So, not all Hindu family is like her family. Conscious people should take the lead to enlighten our society.
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