Friends
Is this Western " MAA DIBOSH OR MOTHER'S DAY " applicable for us specially in the sub-continent ??? To my thinking a big "NO".
By culture and tradition we the people of the area are very family oriented and in an average family "Mother's " are the epi centre of attraction not only for the children but also for other related members of the family.
In our family a mother is not only a mother but also she is a daughter/ sister-in-Law, aunty and friends of the neighbours. She performs all the role perfectly and with a smiling face and make everyone happy. This age old family bondage is still shining like bright star of our family sky.
Whereas if we look at the poor condition of the families of the West what we see? We see that there is no family bondage which has been taken over by "individualism" and "materialism" and there is no iota of love and affection between the family members. Once the childrens attain certain age they part from the family and have their own entity and don't care what is happening with the mother or dad back home . Even before that age they develop a serious sense individualism which impedes the relationship between the child and the family and by thus family bondage is fast sinking.
If we look at our "Shahittya 0 Shangskriti" we will find that the poets and writers wrote many of their class pieces centering round the " Maa/Mother". Maa is the focal point of any patriotic songs or love song or poetries are dedicated the to loving mother.
Mothers in our countries bears only one onus that is to sacrifice her own wishes or happyness for the children she gave birth to and the elders who are dependent in the family. A mother's smile make the ailing child to forget the enormous pain s/he is under and it is seen that mother despite her whole day laborious work for the family is awake the night to nurse the ailing child. She even prays to creator to spare the childs life instead of hers.
WHAT A SACRIFICING HEART A MOTHER OF OUR CONTINENT POSSES WHICH CANNOT AND SHOULD NOT BE COMPARED TO ANY ELSEWHERE.
Many many pages can be written on our loving, caring and ever smiling mothers.
There is no second choice or question about the pure and committed love of the "Maa/Mother"
I have had the opportunity to visit around the west and saw the dilapidated conditions of not only of the mothers but also of the dads. I have seen mothers looking through the window in the sky with deep sigh of sadness and emptiness in her heart. I do not want to spell out the other horrific condition that the poor parents are in the West .
To ease the dishaveled conditions of the Mothers/Dads and the break down of the "Family Ties" in the western society, the sociologist/thinkers have invented this special day to bring back in the memory of the children the mothers contributions to h/her. This has become more ceremonial than real affection for the Moms/dads. Only sending a card or a gift to the mom/dad is not that s/he is dreaming from the children that she gave birth. Something more she demends and we all know what is that.
A simple smile and a hug and intermittent caring attention would ease the sadness of the mothers delicate heart. Mother's doesn't require or demand more than this .
To talk about our society we are still clinging together in the family bondage and are ready to hug and play our role as a child. Most of our mothers are taken care of by the family except for few extra smart/English educated/filthy rich section of the society who are imbibed or influenced with so-called western family culture.
As the societal values are fast transforming(rather degrading) with the global transformation mostly for economic reason we are also in a process of change. Change is required and good if it has a positive impact on the society and the family at large. We have to be very carefull that we accept the change but not to turn our face or responsibilities from our Mom and dad.
I personally feel that we do not need to observe this day as we believe that everyday is our Maa Dibosh or Mothers day.Let us look back when we were kids and even when we became Dad/mom, the great mothers are still caring and thinking about us. I saw my mom fighting(lovingly) with my small daughter for the control of theirs son's(my) hand !!!!!!!!!!!!!! I still remember this that it depicts the love of the mother is divine and nothing else.
I lost my mom and dad (they died within a span of 22 days in 2002) six years back and I miss them very much as we were together. I am enclosing a small poesy I wrote looking at my mom the night she died. Please read the poesy.
Maa ami 0 amora sokoley tomakey bhalobeshechi ebong bhalobashbo ononto kal.
Faruque Alamgir
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